Sex is like a movie. You may watch it with someone or alone, and your experience of it is totally different from the person next to you. You have different preferences, you want it to end one way or the other, but the discussion goes on in your mind. Did that really mean what I thought it meant? Was it even worth my time?
Imagine trying to remember who was that one actor from one time who you really liked but can’t remember his name? Sometimes our sexual partners stay with us in that way – at the back of our mind even when we don’t realize it. Wait, JON HAMM! Yeah, that’s that guy from that thing.
After deeply knowing someone on an intimate level, whether that be a sexual parnter, friend, mentor, human connection, HOW do you know which parts of someone to keep and which to let go? Which stories do we know are truth when it comes to authentic relationships?
We all know these people : energetic pathways to our highest and most connected self. Whether that is sexual information, creative energetic information or love? It blurs sometimes. The people who know us on a basic level may not be sexual partners at all, but they leave an imprint on us that is difficult to decipher. Someone who sees our best self, has given to us when we did not expect generosity, or has seen us at our most vulnerable.
Here’s a way to pay them back for those kindnesses : remove all energy that NEEDS something. Remove all expectations, anticipations or attachments with them and be present with the love they have. If they have none left for you, then bless them and be on your way. If you are still able to give and receive selflessly with that person, then give stronger and take only what is given.
I haven’t had the greatest history when it comes to remembering the lead or supporting actors/actresses in my sexual life. I got caught up in the Sex and the City hookup culture, enjoying reruns of a show that wasn’t relevant nor present to the actual needs of women. If according to Kundalini Yoga tradition, a sexual partner leaves pranic cavities in a woman’s aura? I may have more holes than swiss cheese filled with buckshot.
For the most part, I’ve cleared up the majority of that sexual storytelling and been able to give love to someone unconditionally and with respect. But here comes the big challenge : how much of my thoughts go into the old relationship for the sake of a fantasy emotionship I may have? Emotionships, of course, are those tiny fantasy relationships in our minds that make us believe someone is what they are not for the sake of emotional safety. No surprise? These never work out.
May your relationship with your higher consciousness be your top priority. May you never hunger for something that isn’t and be present with what is in your partner. May you give yourself an emotional energy colonic and forgive all the things that someone never was for you. May you be for yourself what you hope to get from a partner. May you love your soul. May you live for love. May that love be true to you.